The analogy between risk-averse dating and risk-averse investing: keeping emotional distance ('one foot in, one foot out') to avoid heartbreak paradoxically guarantees the outcome you're trying to avoid, and guarantees that even good outcomes won't be satisfying.

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Graham Weaver

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it's kind of like imagine your imagine you're you start dating and your only purpose of dating is not get your heartbroken... even if you have a good date it's not going to be that great because you're not really in it but the more likely outcome is you're going to guarantee the very outcome you're trying to avoid

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Last Lecture Series: “How to Live an Asymmetric Life,” Graham WeaverStanford Graduate School of Business
Created: 8/12/2026, 6:19:24 PM

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