Claims

When grieving the loss of his son, Hudner experienced emotional pain so severe it became physical pain, and the only way to endure it was to reframe it with perspective—recognizing that not feeling such pain would have negated the meaning of his love for his son, and that the hundreds of people supporting him made it impossible to give up without letting them down.

You don't get over losing a child but you learn to live with it; you learn to carry the grief as part of a transformed identity rather than resolving or moving past it.