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Chinese women are beautiful and intelligent but can be materialistic and rude. One question they like to ask their man to test his devotion annoys men. The wrong answer can also cause men legal troubles. Some Chinese have bad manners. People outside China attribute it to a different upbringing, cultural differences, or inadequate education. As a Chinese woman, I think the CCP and its control of the Chinese language and traditions have played a role.
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The speaker argues that Chinese women appear 'heartless' not due to inherent character flaws or cultural upbringing, but because the Chinese Communist Party's 1955 simplification of Chinese characters literally removed the symbol for 'heart' from the character for 'love,' fundamentally altering the cultural and linguistic foundation of Chinese values around relationships and care.
- The traditional Chinese character for 'love' (愛) contains a heart symbol; the simplified version removes it entirely, making 'love' linguistically heartless
- The CCP's replacement of traditional Confucian and Daoist values with communist ideology destroyed the moral foundation that previously guided relationships
- Absurd legal precedents (like the 2013 judicial exam question about choosing between mother and girlfriend) demonstrate how communist ideology forces impossible moral choices that contradict traditional Chinese harmony values
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Chinese people believe their language and culture is divinely inspired, with characters rich in meaning where components combine to create meaningful wholes (e.g., 'labor' + 'field' = 'man')
“Chinese people believe their language and culture is divinely inspired. The characters (or 'words,' if you will) are rich in meaning. For example, the character for 'man' or 'male' is made up of two characters, 'labor' and 'field.' When you put labor in the field, you get the word 'man.'”
The CCP rolled out simplified Chinese characters in 1955 with the alleged goal of improving literacy, but the simplification drastically changed the inner meanings of the language and culture
“Mao Zedong called for language reform. In 1955, the regime rolled out the 'simplified' Chinese characters with the alleged goal of improving literacy. But the simplified characters drastically changed the inner meanings of the language and culture.”
The CCP destroyed Chinese people's basic sense of morality by destroying traditional culture and people's faith in Buddhism, Daoism, and Confucianism, and replacing them with communist ideology
“By destroying traditional culture and people's faith in Buddhism, Daoism, and Confucianism and replacing them with communist ideology, the CCP has destroyed the Chinese people's basic sense of morality.”
Putting human nature to an extreme test by forcing impossible moral choices (like choosing between mother and wife) is a telltale trait of communist ideology
“Putting human nature to an extreme test is a telltale trait of communist ideology.”
Forcing a man to pick between wife and mother contradicts traditional Chinese values of harmony and coexistence, and is therefore not authentically Chinese
“Forcing a man to pick between his wife and mother contradicts the traditional Chinese values of harmony and coexistence and therefore is not-Chinese at all.”
When the CCP enforces nonsensical laws, it is turning intelligent people into clueless robots—individuals with no common sense or judgment
“When the CCP enforces its nonsensical laws, it's turning intelligent people into clueless robots—or individuals with no common sense or judgment.”
In traditional Chinese, the character for 'love' (愛) has a heart symbol in the center, but the simplified Chinese characters introduced by the CCP in 1955 removed the heart from the character for love, making love linguistically 'heartless'
“In traditional Chinese, the character or word for love, '愛' has a heart in the center. In the simplified font, the heart is removed from 'love.' So love in China is heartless.”
The Chinese word for 'good' ('hao') literally means 'woman' when its components are separated, reflecting traditional values that 'a good woman and a hardworking man make a perfectly happy couple'
“The word for 'good' in Chinese is 'hao.' When you separate the two components, it literally means 'woman.' So woman is good, and labor in the field is man. A good woman and a hardworking man make a perfectly happy couple.”
The traditional Chinese character for 'endearing/intimate relations' (親) contains a component meaning 'seeing,' making the character mean 'you love someone, you want to see them,' but in simplified characters this 'seeing' component is removed
“The Chinese word '親' means endearing, intimate, or loved ones. It can also be used to mean marriage or when used as a verb, 'kiss.' In the traditional font, the word has a component on the right that means 'seeing.' It makes sense. You love someone, you want to see them. But in the simplified font, the 'seeing' part is removed. So now you marry someone or kiss someone without seeing them.”
Chinese intellectuals have summarized the cultural impact of simplified characters as '爱无心，亲不见' meaning 'Love without the heart and endearing relations is nowhere in sight'
“People have summarized the cultural impact of the simplified Chinese characters as '爱无心，亲不见.' That is, 'Love without the heart and endearing relations is nowhere in sight.'”
The speaker disagrees with the standard explanations for why Chinese women appear heartless, arguing that an important factor is being ignored
“As a Chinese woman, I kind of disagree. There is an important factor being ignored.”
In 2013, the question of whether a man who rescues his girlfriend but lets his mother die in a fire commits the crime of 'non action' appeared on a Chinese Justice Department judicial exam, with the official answer being 'True'
“This question appeared on a list of judicial exam questions in 2013. The original question asked if the following situation constitutes committing a crime of 'non action.' 'A person had the ability to save his mother at the time of a fire, but he didn't (causing her death) and rescued his girlfriend instead. If there were no other circumstances that would constitute a crime, the person has committed the crime of 'non action.' True or false?' According to the test document, the answer is 'True.'”
Chinese women shouldn't be blamed as a group for appearing heartless, because the issue isn't inherent to Chinese women but rather something powerful has 'taken away' their hearts
“If you are a Chinese woman, don't get angry with me. I'm not saying that we are all heartless. But we can appear heartless because someone very powerful took our heart away.”
A Justice Department exam scenario asked whether a husband who failed to rescue his divorcing wife who drowned constitutes committing 'non action,' with the official answer being 'No'
“In the same Justice Department's exam, another scenario is also eye-opening. It says: 'If during a couple's divorce process, the husband failed to rescue the wife who died after accidentally falling into water because he wasn't aware that he was legally obligated to rescue her, has he committed the crime of 'non action.'?' The official answer is 'No'!”
Issues that Westerners report having with mainland Chinese spouses or partners are more than just cultural differences; they reflect moral and cognitive corruption by the CCP
“When Westerners tell me they have issues with a mainland Chinese spouse or girlfriend or boyfriend, it's more than just a cultural difference.”
A common question used by Chinese women to test their boyfriends' devotion is whether they would save their mother or girlfriend first if both fell in water and only one could be saved
“Winston Sterzel gave an example when he was asked by Chinese men a difficult question: When your wife and your mother both fall into water, who do you rescue first assuming you can only save one? ... But in today's China, this question is often used by a woman to test her man to find out if he is fully devoted to her.”
According to CCP legal logic, a man would commit 'non action' if he rescued his girlfriend and let his mother die, but would be innocent if he watched his divorcing wife drown and did nothing to save her
“So according to the CCP's convoluted laws, you would commit a crime if you rescued your girlfriend but not your mother. But you are innocent if you saw your wife whom you are divorcing drowning to death and didn't do anything to save her.”
A second step in addressing CCP corruption is to help Chinese people understand traditional values in the context of their own culture
“We also need to help Chinese understand traditional values in the context of their own culture.”
Some Shen Yun artists were persecuted in China, and they should be supported because they are bringing back to life the traditional culture that the CCP has killed but Chinese people seriously need
“Some of the Shen Yun artists were persecuted in China. I think we should support them because they're bringing back to life the traditional culture that the CCP has killed but Chinese people seriously need.”
The first step in addressing CCP-induced moral corruption is to be patient and understand that the CCP has corrupted Chinese people's thinking without their awareness
“First we need to be patient and understand that the CCP has corrupted their thinking, and they don't even know it…”
Both 'Return to Dust' and Shen Yun performances are banned by the CCP in China, which demonstrates they are valuable cultural resources
“Both the movie and Shen Yun are banned by the CCP in China. That just tells me they are good.”
Despite depicting misfortune and hardship throughout their lives, no one in 'Return to Dust' is more in love than the main couple, embodying authentic human values of devotion and commitment
“Although their life spells misfortune and hardship all over, no one is more in love than they are.”
The 2015 viral post about the mother-girlfriend choice caused serious debates in China, with Chinese media announcing that 'the state has provided the answer' about whom to save
“The post caused serious debates in China. Headlines of Chinese media announced: 'To save your girlfriend or mother, the state has provided the answer.'”
The movie 'Return to Dust' was recently banned by the CCP due to its realistic depiction of poverty and hardship in rural China
“I also highly recommend the movie 'Return to Dust.' The movie was recently banned by the CCP due to its realistic depiction of the poverty and hardship in rural China.”
A viral 2015 PowerPoint social media post claimed that the Justice Department officially required men to save their mothers over girlfriends when both faced danger, framing it as law rather than legal principle
“This question later showed up in a viral social media post in 2015 in which a PowerPoint slide read: 'The correct answer released by the Justice Department is that one must save his mother. In other words, when your girlfriend and mother both face danger and you can only save one, the country requires you to rescue your mother! If you rescue your mother and your girlfriend dies, you don't commit a crime. Contrarily, if you save the girlfriend and your mother dies, you have committed the crime of 'non action.'”
The scenario of choosing between mother and girlfriend is a stupid question because it creates an extreme situation that tears a family apart instead of bringing them together
“We know there is no right or wrong answer because people's reaction may vary depending on the situation. And this is a stupid question because it creates an extreme situation that tears a family apart instead of bringing them together.”
Classic stories of 'Splitting the Mountain' and 'The Enchanted Painting' show that true love and happiness require sacrifice, courage, and a little bit of divine intervention
“These classic stories show that true love and happiness require sacrifice, courage, and a little bit of divine intervention.”
Chinese men were confused by the 2015 post about the mother-girlfriend choice and asked whether the rule applied differently if the other person was a wife rather than a girlfriend
“But Chinese men are confused. They asked: What if it's my wife and not my girlfriend. Chinese legal experts replied: You won't commit a crime if you save your wife first.”
Chinese girlfriends were unhappy about the legal distinction that gave preference to wives, and began asking their boyfriends whether they would be willing to break the law to rescue them
“But then, Chinese girlfriends aren't happy. 'Hey! Just because we aren't married, we don't deserve to be saved?' They ask their boyfriends the ultimate question: Are you willing to break the law to rescue me in the event of….”
Chinese women are perceived as materialistic, rude, and heartless by people outside China, but this perception is commonly attributed to cultural differences, upbringing, or bad education
“Chinese women are beautiful, sweet, and intelligent. But they can appear materialistic and rude. Some people living outside China call them 'heartless' as they can be mean. People usually attribute this unfortunate trait to a different upbringing, cultural differences, or bad education.”
Having common sense is a blessing in contemporary times, implying that the CCP's convoluted legal system destroys common sense and logical reasoning
“I think we live in a time when having common sense is a blessing.”
According to Chinese legal experts' clarification, a man will not commit a crime if he saves his wife first in a situation where both wife and mother face danger, distinguishing wives from girlfriends
“Chinese legal experts replied: You won't commit a crime if you save your wife first.”
Watching Shen Yun dance programs provides history lessons while being entertained simultaneously
“It's like getting a history lesson while being entertained.”
'Return to Dust' tells the story of a poverty-stricken couple—a poor peasant who cannot find a wife and a disabled woman living in her brother's backyard—who are forgotten people struggling at the bottom of society's ladder
“The movie is about the life of a poverty-stricken couple: He is a poor peasant who can't find a wife, and she is a disabled woman who lives in her brother's backyard. They are the forgotten people struggling at the bottom of society's ladder.”
Winston Sterzel raised the question of why Chinese women appear heartless but did not explain the underlying causes, which Lei seeks to address
“A fan recommended Winston Sterzel's video 'Are Chinese women heartless' to me. What he described in the video is true and he raised a good question. But, he didn't explain why Chinese women are heartless.”
The Shen Yun dance performance 'The Enchanted Painting' depicts the journey of a young man who fights to rescue his bride from an evil dragon, illustrating how authentic Chinese culture shows that relationships require sacrifice and courage
“'The Enchanted Painting' depicts the journey of a young man who fought to rescue his bride from an evil dragon with the help of a Taoist wizard.”
The Shen Yun dance performance 'Splitting the Mountain' tells the story of a boy determined to save his mother, illustrating traditional Chinese values of sacrifice and filial devotion
“I found two performances by Shen Yun Performing Arts that illustrate how a man saved his mother and his bride, separately of course. 'Splitting the Mountain' tells the story of a boy determined to save his mother.”
Lei's favorite Shen Yun program is 'Beauty Trap,' based on the legend of Diao Chan, one of the four most beautiful women in Chinese history who used her beauty to help a weak emperor end chaos in his kingdom
“One of my favorite Shen Yun programs is the 'Beauty Trap.' It's base on the legend of Diao Chan, one of the four most beautiful women in Chinese history. She used her beauty to help a weak emperor end chaos in his kingdom.”
Shen Yun offers an annual subscription option to watch all music and dance programs, as an alternative to purchasing individual programs
“If you don't want to spend money to buy individual programs, you can pay for an annual subscription to watch all music and dance programs offered.”
Shen Yun Performing Arts programs are available for approximately 7 minutes each and require payment but are worth the cost for learning traditional cultural values
“The two Shen Yun dance programs are only about 7 minute each. ... You have to pay a few bucks to watch the Shen Yun programs. They are not free but worth it.”