A strategy to make helping more effective: instead of asking someone 'How can I help?', offer them choices (a multiple-choice question rather than an open-ended essay) about what specific tasks you could do; for example, instead of 'What should I make for dinner?', offer 'Would you like spaghetti or tacos?' This reduces the mental load required for the person to accept help.
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“can you give me a choice of what you could do to help would you rather answer answer a multiple choice question or would you rather write... a long a short form essay to answer a question when you're kind of under duress... if that person had said okay um I'll help out I'm going to make dinner tonight do you want spaghetti or do you want tacos imagine how much easier that is to cope with”
Created: 8/13/2026, 7:47:09 AM
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